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Episode 82- Comparisons and Admitting You Need Help

Milspouse Matters Episode 82

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Here’s the second installment of the study of my book, You Are Not Alone: Encouragement for the Heart of a Military Spouse, that we’ve been doing in the Christian Military Spouse Facebook group. As mentioned on the last episode, I decided to share the audio from my talks here on the podcast, and this is the week 2 study covering readings 5-7. 

(Note: If you’d like to join in the ongoing book study and discussion, join us here: Christian Military Spouses Facebook group.)

Don’t have the book? Get the new, updated 2022 edition here: You Are Not Alone: Encouragement for the Heart of a Military Spouse.

If you have the first edition from 2016, that will work fine too!

Today, we’re discussing Days 5-7 and the themes of comparisons, discontentment with military life, and admitting when we need help. Sometimes military spouses need the reminder that we don’t get a medal for being the toughest and doing everything on our own! Another pitfall can be comparing our situation to our civilian friends and family and wishing we had it differently. We’re going to talk about not comparing, ways to cultivate contentment, and the importance of not struggling alone and finding that community we all need. 

Common question: Do you have to be religious to read this book? 

While this book is written from the perspective of a Christian military spouse, I think there is so much that pertains to any military spouse!

Book study questions for this week (of course, you can do all the questions in the book on your own!). 

  • What stood out to you from this week’s readings? 

  • What are some ways you will consciously cultivate contentment this week? 

  • Is there a particular area of your life you find yourself comparing to others, which then causes you to feel discontent? (p. 23)

  • Choose one thing to be grateful for every day this week and write it in your book on page 23.

  • What are you having a hard time trusting God with? What actions can you take this week to relinquish control? (p. 29)

  • Is there a circumstance you’re struggling with that requires help beyond what you can do alone? What steps will you take to get practical help for your situation? (p. 34)

  • If you’re doing fine, is there someone you know who could use a helping hand right now? (p. 34)

Bible verses to focus on this week: 

  • 1 Timothy 6:6-8

  • Hebrews 4:15-16

  • John 14:27

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